Monday, September 12, 2005


I’ve decided, after being asked for a friend for advice on whether she should go out with on a date with a guy we randomly picked-up to accompany us to go Salsa dancing, that I should make a checklist for going out a second time with someone I meet in Japan. (and maybe it has some personal application to…)

what am I forgetting? thoughts?

interesting—will I walk away from the night yawning or check my watch at 3 am and be surprised that I’m captivated.

unique—is he/she a dime a dozen. will he/she teach you anything new about anything. if they don’t have anything to teach, or any journey past-pressent to discuss, don’t bother.

dangerous/safe—no means no asshole, so a score of 1 or 2 is completely unacceptable. 3 or 4 means that you have to repeat yourself and maybe figure out how to get home on your own but aren’t in danger. ok to figure language barrier into the equation

physical chemistry

purpose—always an evolving factor, but either the purpose of another date or in life is acceptable to judge. is it $$$$$. or more than that, I mean personal outlook on life. do things happen to you or do you activily do things in your life.

desperate factor (as some sort of ratio between his/hers and mine)

quality of suggestions—if you are going to ask me to a movie, you better be OK with talking and laughing through it. bonus is you invite me to climb some hill lesser known than Mt. Fuji at 3am. specific wins points over general. ok to consider an invitation in part because you couldn’t afford (meaning$$) to go alone

as the gorgeous and infallibly sexy Ani DiFranco says
i want somebody who sees the pointlessness
and still keeps their purpose in mind
i want somebody who has a tortured soul
some of the time
i want somebody who will either put out for me
or put me out of misery
or maybe just put it all to words
and make me go, you know
i never heard it put that way
make me say, what did you just say?

i want somebody who can hold my interest
hold it and never let it go
someone who can flatten me with a kiss
that hits like a fist
or a sentence, that stops me like a brick wall
if you hear me talking
listen to what i'm not saying…

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

is there other "intelligent" life in the universe? why does the US allow themselves thousands of WMD's and want to restrict every other nation? big questions but whether or not to go on the second date? now that's BIG.
hmmm. chemistry is huge but it can also blind you. how sensitive are they at reading personal cues? do they realize you aren't laughing at their jokes? do they move in for a kiss WAY before it's appropriate? how do they treat the waiter or waitress? has your curiosity about their life been sated? it's more important how you feel about them than how they feel about you. of course.
they make sure that you're getting home safely. good old chivalry counts. i suppose there are things like having teeth but whether they dance or not is huge, huh? whether they want to see the world first hand, not out of books and mags. but reading is good - real real good.
i'm getting carried away. crude and vulgar is out. a mean drunk is out. male/female entitlement is out