I’ve decided, after being asked for a friend for advice on whether she should go out with on a date with a guy we randomly picked-up to accompany us to go Salsa dancing, that I should make a checklist for going out a second time with someone I meet in Japan. (and maybe it has some personal application to…)
what am I forgetting? thoughts?
interesting—will I walk away from the night yawning or check my watch at 3 am and be surprised that I’m captivated.
unique—is he/she a dime a dozen. will he/she teach you anything new about anything. if they don’t have anything to teach, or any journey past-pressent to discuss, don’t bother.
dangerous/safe—no means no asshole, so a score of 1 or 2 is completely unacceptable. 3 or 4 means that you have to repeat yourself and maybe figure out how to get home on your own but aren’t in danger. ok to figure language barrier into the equation
purpose—always an evolving factor, but either the purpose of another date or in life is acceptable to judge. is it $$$$$. or more than that, I mean personal outlook on life. do things happen to you or do you activily do things in your life.
desperate factor (as some sort of ratio between his/hers and mine)
quality of suggestions—if you are going to ask me to a movie, you better be OK with talking and laughing through it. bonus is you invite me to climb some hill lesser known than Mt. Fuji at 3am. specific wins points over general. ok to consider an invitation in part because you couldn’t afford (meaning$$) to go alone
as the gorgeous and infallibly sexy Ani DiFranco says
i want somebody who sees the pointlessness
and still keeps their purpose in mind
i want somebody who has a tortured soul
some of the time
i want somebody who will either put out for me
or put me out of misery
or maybe just put it all to words
and make me go, you know
i never heard it put that way
make me say, what did you just say?
i want somebody who can hold my interest
hold it and never let it go
someone who can flatten me with a kiss
that hits like a fist
or a sentence, that stops me like a brick wall
if you hear me talking
listen to what i'm not saying…